MomBoss: The “C” Word
It started with numerous hospital visits and doctor appointments just to find out what was wrong with her.
2017 for my family sucked. I am going to just throw it out there and say it. Now that I have, let me tell you that it was also great but to help you better understand where I am at this year I am going to back track to why it sucked.
It started with numerous hospital visits and doctor appointments just to find out what was wrong with her. Even though it did. Finally, after several weeks and tests, we got a diagnosis, but not one any of us anticipated.
The “C” Word.
I’ve written before about having a contingency plan in place for the unexpected, like when my grandmother passed away in October. However, no contingency plan, or anything for that matter, can prepare a parent to have their three-year-old diagnosed with cancer.
As a mom, you go through many worries. Checking temperatures, wiping runny noses, teaching them to look both ways before crossing the street and making sure they eat their vegetables. It’s a constant balance of keeping them safe and healthy while simultaneously letting them learn and grow and develop.
Parents develop support systems to help them navigate all the hurdles in the early years. And often those support systems grow and develop as the kids grow and meet new friends of their own. Moms often hold the reigns in this capacity.
It seems I’m again learning how to adjust to something new, finding that new support system.
When Sura was officially diagnosed, I couldn’t help but want to shut down and cut everything out to focus solely on her. Apart from being a MomBoss, though, is finding the strength to do the exact opposite of shutting down. With Emma, my infant, still counting on Blake and me, we had to learn to think on our feet to manage a new lifestyle of having a sick child.
After taking some time to process, I began planning again: for my family and for my business. With a standing appointment for chemotherapy in place, Blake and I were able to adjust and rearrange our schedules to accommodate Sura’s treatments as necessary. It allowed for some semblance of normalcy in an abnormal situation.
But let’s face it: Life is nothing but normal, even with healthy kids.
As a mom, your whole family looks to you to be strong and to weather the storm without dropping any balls. When you’re also a business owner, your clients count on you too.
Don’t get me wrong, as I’ve opened up and told my story–first to friends, then to clients–everyone has been more than understanding and supportive. But that doesn’t change the fact that I want to be Supermom. MomBoss. Photographer extraordinaire. Every time.
Treatment continues, and will continue in the coming months. We are taking it stp by step and learn to adjust to our new schedule and new lifestyle.. I’ve taken my time to mourn for my daughter’s health and celebrate the technology and innovations that are helping her. I’ve screamed and cried, wiped tears and prayed, laughed and rested. Now I am here to share my story with you as a Mom first and a Boss second so you or your friend or family member can know life goes on, even after cancer.
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© Crystal Hollman, Crystal Clear Photography, 2018